|Brownsville Blogger Robert(Bobby)Wightman-Cervantes|
The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. It can be trivial (e.g., about what they want for lunch) or it can be serious (e.g., about whether or not they love you). When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! They will contradict FACTS. They will lie to you about things that you did together. They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy. [At this point, if you're like me, you sort of panic and want to talk to anyone who will listen about what is going on: this is a healthy reaction; it's a reality check ("who's the crazy one here?"); that you're confused by the narcissist's contrariness, that you turn to another person to help you keep your bearings, that you know something is seriously wrong and worry that it might be you are all signs that you are not a narcissist.
Am I saying this description fits local blogger Bobby Wightman-Cervantes? I'm not. The reader can make his or her own decision on that. But, in my lifetime, I've never observed ANYONE so self-contradictory, reversing field on every issue, every person, and then, oblivious to all the deviations.
But the royal headache stems, not only from the herky-jerky alliances, with friends becoming foes in a millisecond, respect turning instantly into derision, canonization to condemnation on-the-fly, but Bobby presents the arguments with such illogical, unstructured written speech, that brain cells are fried trying to piece the arguments together.
In his latest diatribe, Bobby, after chastising local bloggers for engaging in conspiracy theories, comes out next sentence with a doozy of his own; that Tad Hasse is now being supported by Mike Hernandez III's OP 10.33 in his efforts to see to it that the public, not the County Commissioner's Court, names our next tax assessor:
"Now the only reason you are not reading claims by Montoya and Barton that Hasse is now taking money from Hernandez is because Tad Hasse is protected from their made up conspiracy theories.
Someone I have never heard of and was not at Tad Hasse's event I believe was claiming an interest in running for Tax Assessor as a write in and was taking Hernandez to task for associating with Eddie Lucio III.
Hernandez demanded proof that Lucio III was bad. I sent him an article from the Herald which Hernandez termed gossip and should be posted on the blog and not on his FB page."
The beauty in an accusation initiated by Bobby is that no one understands what he's trying to say. "No harm, no foul," as they say. I've read my name on Bobby's blog, next to the word "racist," and the phrase "con artist," but, after trying to understand his statement, realized it was, not only incredible, but no one would be able to make "heads or tails" of it.
Tad will likely smile, if and when he reads Bobby's latest anti-conspiracy, conspiracy theory involving him. No one has received more amusement over the years from Bobby's blog offerings than Tad.
Brownsville's so-called 11th commandment: "Thou Shalt Not Talk to Bobby Wightman" has been broken time and again by inexperienced local politicos, typically to their peril. Bobby's first article will praise you, but his second or third will put the knife squarely in your back.
Actually, Mike Hernandez III's initial interest in consulting with Bobby Wightman was one of the early red flags that he did not comprehend the lay of the local land. While the other bloggers seemed to view Hernandez as having "more money than sense," Wightman came out from the get-go as a supporter. For those of us who have observed Wightman for years, the back-tracking and reversal of field now developing was inevitable. Such is the Wightman psyche.
For Mike Hernandez III's initial venture into Brownsville politics, its been an expensive learning experience. But, it may be years before he realizes that those forming alliances with him have done so merely to take advantage of his money and political "naivete" to further their own agendas. He will also find Tad Hasse not to be in that group.